Everything You Need To Know About Covenant Relationships
This article covers all you need to know about covenant relationships; often, we ask ourselves if we are keeping the right relationship or what relationship do we have with our Maker. To get a full grasp of what covenant relationships are, we need to know the meaning of covenant.
What Is A Covenant?
The word ” covenant ” may not be commonly used in our day to day conversation; it is frequently heard in legal, religious, and theological contexts. The term covenant is of Latin origin, con venire, which translates to “coming together.”
Covenant means the agreement, bond, or contract between two or more parties; it means different things for different settings. In a social context, a covenant can mean a lifelong friendship agreement, or marriage, while in a political situation; it can signify a treaty between two parties, or countries. However, it is entirely different in religious and theological and relationship circles, covenant relationship is mostly seen as the agreement between God and man, for example, God entered a covenant with Abraham in the book of Genesis Chapter 15.
The Lord spoke to Abram in a vision; He told Abram how Isaac would be the chosen heir and not the son bore to him by his servant. God entered a covenant with Abram; He promised Abram that he would be the father of many nations, and Abraham believed God even when he knows it is physically impossible for him and his wife Sarah to give birth to a child. Abraham’s faith in God was counted for him as righteousness.
Furthermore, God told Abraham that he would give the land of Canaan as his heritage. Abraham asked the Lord in verse 8 of the same chapter how is it going to be possible. And God answered him by telling Abraham to bring Him a heifer, a goat and a ram, each three years old, along with a dove and a young pigeon. Abraham did everything God instructed him to do, and God did as He has said to Abraham.
Misconceptions Of Covenant Relationships
In every covenant relationship, be it political, theological social (marriage) both parties need to do something before the covenant becomes valid. It is not one-sided, and unfortunately, the covenant relationships we have with our Maker is mostly one-sided. Even in marriage today, a lot of us think we do not have to do anything; we just need to wait for the other party to do various things for us.
Covenant is not the same as a promise; promises are without a clause. Someone can promise to do something for you without expecting anything in return from you. But it is not the same as a covenant. In covenant, both parties are obligated to fulfill their own part of the bargain before the covenant is termed valid. Same rules apply in politics, social, as well as a religious covenant.
Covenant Relationships In Marriage
Unfortunately, there are several misconceptions about covenant relationship in marriages today that has left many with no other choice but to file for divorce.
For instance, in marriage, the Bible clearly stated in Ephesians 5:25-33
“Husbands, love your wives, even as Christ also loved the church, and gave himself for it;
26 That he might sanctify and cleanse it with the washing of water by the word,
27 That he might present it to himself a glorious church, not having a spot, or wrinkle, or any such thing; but that it should be holy and without blemish.
28 So ought men to love their wives as their own bodies. He that loves his wife loves himself.
29 For no man ever yet hated his own flesh; but nourish and cherish it, even as the Lord the church:
30 For we are members of his body, of his flesh, and of his bones.
31 For this, cause shall a man leave his father and mother and shall be joined unto his wife, and they two shall be one flesh.
32 This is a great mystery: but I speak concerning Christ and the church.
33 nevertheless let every one of you in particular so love his wife even as himself, and the wife sees that she reverence her husband.”
Many men will claim they love their wives, but things are not going smoothly for them. This boils down to the question; how do you know you love your wife? I know we say- “well, I buy her things, I ensure the family does not lack anything, and I take her on vacations once in a while. All these are true, but love is more than expensive gifts, holidays, and providing essential amenities for the house.
What Is Love?
Paul simplifies the meaning of love to us in the book of 1 Corinthians 5:8 Charity (love) never fails: but whether there be prophecies, they shall fail; whether there be tongues, they shall cease; whether there be knowledge, it shall vanish away.
Here is one secret for all men fighting hard to save your marriage; no matter how stone hearted your spouse is, you should immediately start loving her completely, she will automatically becomes submissive to you. It is not magic; it is a covenant; both parties need to make it work.
Lastly, stop using what you see in the movies to measure the love of your spouse! It is wrong, many of us have broken homes today because we compare our lives with that of a movie. What we fail to realize is that some man wrote these movies, but God writes theirs. Comparing your neighbor’s husband with yours will only end in disaster. Learn to use God’s words as the standard; forget what you see around you; take notice of the scriptures, search out what is written concerning you and your relationship.
The Bible is the oldest book with the latest news; all you are required to do is to seek the help of the Holy Spirit.
Covenant Relationship With God And His Children In The Area Of Finance
Many Christians see back and wait for God to change their financial status miraculously. Please know that God is not a magician, and not every blessing is a promise of God. You need to fulfill your part of the agreement before you see some things changing in your life. Genesis 8:22 “While the earth remaineth, seedtime and harvest, and cold and heat, and summer and winter, and day and night shall not cease.”
Most people love to claim the blessings of Abraham but do not want to do what he did to get the blessings.
The Word of God stands sure; He will not reduce His standard to please you, our God is no respecter of person. If you want God to be committed to your finances, you have to enter into a covenant with Him.
Malachi 3:10 “Bring ye all the tithes into the storehouse, that there may be meat in mine house, and prove me now herewith, says the Lord of hosts, if I will not open you the windows of heaven, and pour you out a blessing, that there shall not be room enough to receive it.”
Abraham obeyed God to the letter, no wonder he received the promises of God, Isaiah 55:11 “So shall my word be that goeth forth out of my mouth: it shall not return unto me void, but it shall accomplish that which I please, and it shall prosper in the thing whereto I sent it.”
Exodus 23:25 “And ye shall serve the Lord your God, and he shall bless thy bread and thy water, and I will take sickness away from the midst of thee.”
Note that you can either accept or reject a covenant, but you cannot change it. In Genesis 15, Abraham had every right to turn down God’s requests; he had a choice of believing in God or not to believe God. That is one of the beautiful traits of our heavenly Father; He gives us the free will to love, accept and follow Him. The decision is now up to us to take; Proverbs 18:21 “Death and life are in the power of the tongue: and they that love it shall eat the fruit thereof.”
How Do We Build Covenant Relationships?
Covenant relationships is hard work; you do not just wish it to happen, you need to make it happen. Just like a marriage between a man and a woman; they both need to make a conscious decision to make their marriage work. The reason you see many broken homes today is lack of preparation, and the inability to fight for what they love.
• It begins with a spiritual act to be “tied” together. Both parties must have a mutual personal commitment to the our covenant relationships, which includes mutual respect and building the other party instead of bringing him down.
• It begins and grows by making and keeping a covenant. When the covenant is the base for any relationship, the tendency of maintaining a long-lasting and stable relationship is great.
• It starts with a generous soul attitude. Relationships flourish when the “generous soul” attitude is present. Having a generous soul means the ability to encourage, edify, and promote the other party readily.
• It grows and stays healthy as we protect the relationship. All relationships have their times of stretching, problems, testing, and disruption. Nonetheless, both parties can survive these periods if they are willing to maintain right covenant relationships.
ENCOURAGE YOURSELF: When it comes to the terms covenant, it is liking making a vow. It is better not to make a vow, than to make one and not keep it.