Unfortunately, I had the sadden pleasure of hearing my sweet little grandson use the “N” word. Usually I am out of town, and every time I see the twins, they are so perfect. Grandma’s little babies! Oh, they could do no wrong if they tried. Well just recently the boys were sitting at the dining room table having a snack, when all of a sudden I heard my sweet little Mark call his brother the “N” word.
The shock that I experienced is indescribable, for it has always been my practice since being married to a Caucasian man, never to use that word. I trained and raised my daughter the same way. So to hear this little boy use such an ugly word; absolutely blows my mind. What I felt in that very moment, was all my work, down the drain! Could it be?
Even though it shouldn’t surprise me, It does! It does because we want better for our children and grand children. We want them to have decency, integrity, to speak well and be intelligent. We want them to choose wisely, to be careful for nothing, and most of all, follow Christ.
Although I trained my daughter to follow the ways of God, doesn’t always mean her children will have the same training. We are to be very careful what we allow our children to hear, watch, or listen to. Meaning our conversations, our telephone conversations, television shows, videos, youtube which the boys truly love., or even the company that we keep. Children only do and say, what they see and hear.
Children are like little sponges, absorbing all that they hear and see; just as soon as the opportunity presents itself, that very thing we speak against will flow out of their mouths, as if they had been using it all their little lives. The shame, the disgust or the humiliation will certainly make you insist on some changes in your household immediately.
Martin Luther King Jr Celebration on yesterday was the perfect opportunity for me to discuss the “N” again, all that our forefathers endured and why we should never use that damnable foul diabolical word. I made it my business to show and express to the twins the horror of that word, prayerfully hoping that they were able to understand the concept of the message I was trying to convey.
It is my opinion that when incidents such as this happens, somewhere, we as parents, have failed; as parents, grandparents, the village, whoever are a part of the raising of these children. As this millennial age have more and more children, I see more unruly, disrespectful kids, and they are getting younger and younger with all their antics. Heaven help. Not having the values instilled in them as we were graced with.
I am a firm believer that when the Bible speaks about: Train your child in the way he should go, And when he is old he will not depart from it. ( Proverbs 22:6 ) It is true. We need to find ourselves doing more to instill what is good and wholesome into our children.
I thank God for allowing me to stay calm when Mark used that ugly word, because so many emotions came over me. Thankful as well allowing me to sit down and talk to him, and not using the same kind of force used on me when growing up.
At that time the disciples came to Jesus and asked, “Who, then, is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven?”
He called a little child to him, and placed the child among them. And he said: “Truly I tell you, unless you change and become like little children, you will never enter the kingdom of heaven. Therefore, whoever takes the lowly position of this child is the greatest in the kingdom of heaven. And whoever welcomes one such child in my name welcomes me.
And these words, which I command thee this day, shall be in thine heart: And thou shalt teach them diligently unto thy children, and shalt talk of them when thou sittest in thine house, and when thou walkest by the way, and when thou liest down, and when thou risest up.
No discipline seems pleasant at the time, but painful. Later on, however, it produces a harvest of righteousness and peace for those who have been trained by it.
A fool despiseth his father’s instruction: but he that regardeth reproof is prudent.
ENCOURAGE YOURSELF: It don’t care what anyone says, it is an ugly word and always will be. It’s like spitting in the face of my forefathers, and people such as Martin Luther King Jr, and Rosa Parks who fought so hard to make a change. Never to hear that word again!