Subjects that others will hardly ever speak about. Today I will break the ice for many of you who still suffer with certain issues, but too afraid to seek help for or even discuss. That subject is masturbation.
We are all human, one way or another we struggle with certain addictions, whether it is sexual, smoking, drinking, lying, gossiping, lust, greed or having an idol God. Many people will not truthfully admit their issues, and nor should you. I am a firm believer these issues should be confessed to God, be honest with yourself or spouse. Asking God to deliver you from your particular issues. For God knows I have had my issues. I can honestly tell you that God will deliver you, if you sincerely ask him. Turn from your wicked ways, and strive to live a clean and holy life.
God intended for man and woman to be together, cleave to one another, multiple and subdue the earth. Where as many have fallen short. There is hope! God sits waiting patiently for you to seek His love and forgiveness. To turn from our wicked ways and sin no more.
More on masturbation according to the bible:
It was not categorically written in the Bible that prohibits or specifically denounces masturbation. Yes, of course, denounces all forms of impurity and sexual fantasies involving adult relationships, both real and mental. The problem with masturbation is that not only can it become habit and addiction, but men and women are often involved in pornography and adulterous fantasies at the peak. Furthermore, the difference in sexual desire in a couple is often not the real problem.
It is rather a collapse in the relationship and an understanding of the role of sex in marriage as something that not only gives pleasure but expresses love, unity and mutual commitment. Masturbation expresses the opposite, unless it is done with the other partner. The husband can try orgasm with his wife without having sex. If you are far from your wife and you are experiencing a strong sexual desire and you may have an orgasm while you think of your wife, etc., this may be appropriate.
Further details: As mentioned, the Bible does not directly address the issue of intentional masturbation or self-stimulation of the sexual organ to the point of orgasm. It warns against any form of complacency, adultery of the mind and fornication. One of the problems involved is that although God has created sex for pleasure. Pleasure should be limited to marriage because it is also designed to express love (not just sexual love), unity and total commitment. Masturbation is an act of self-gratification rather than a part of giving gratification and pleasure to the couple. These are some of the dangers of masturbation that some have classified
1. Psychic effects. Masturbation tends to isolate prisoners psychologically and socially. In masturbation, the person focuses on himself, although he usually fantasizes about another person at the same time.
2. Emotional deprivation. It is impossible for one who practices this habit to experience the full range of sexual emotions. Therefore, short-circuiting emotions can easily be removed from the world of reality.
3. Damaged sensitivity. The habit of masturbation tends to numb the mechanism of the sexual organs if practiced excessively. This decreases the sensitivity and therefore decreases the normal sexual relations of married life.
4. Autogratification. The circumstance of pleasure-seeking is damaging and generally militates against the home, wife and family because it focus only on itself.
5. Mind control. Together with the act of masturbation comes the imagination of the mind. When practiced frequently, a pattern or cycle appears to be established in the mind of the individual. Thus, falsification has a tendency to control the mind and this, in turn, initiates the act. The real hazard lies in the guilt that increases as the individual lives in this daydream world.
This will give you some things to think about. There are many theologians and pastors, etc., which I’m sure would not agree with my comments on this, but this is a little something to consider. As a matter of fact it might be a subject they will refuse to discuss, especially in the African American Church.
ENCOURAGE YOURSELF: Matthew 7:7-8 King James Version (KJV)
7 Ask, and it shall be given you; seek, and ye shall find; knock, and it shall be opened unto you:
8 For every one that asketh receiveth; and he that seeketh findeth; and to him that knocketh it shall be opened.
2 Chronicles 7:14King James Version (KJV)
14 If my people, which are called by my name, shall humble themselves, and pray, and seek my face, and turn from their wicked ways; then will I hear from heaven, and will forgive their sin, and will heal their land.